The month of February is all about relationships. Healthy relationships help us build self-confidence and build character by learning to navigate through life with others. We humans are very social creatures….we love people, and we thrive when we are surrounded by those whom we love the most. (Especially with that special someone.)
Yet all these powerful things that make a relationship so amazing don’t make it easy. It’s still two souls, two bodies and two minds, each of them with their own opinions, plans and perceptions of the world. But when we find a way to make it work (and work hard at keeping it that way), there’s nothing better! So how do you make it work? There’s lots of research now suggesting all kinds of things about how to keep your happy relationship happy.
Here are some suggestions gathered from Psychology Today, as well as suggestions from a few therapists at Kingwood Pines:
• Talk to each other. Communicate. Listen. Be open. Be non-judgmental. Keep talking. It doesn’t mean you’ll agree on everything, but by sharing what’s most important to you, you’ll be more likely to reach a happy compromise from both sides if that’s what’s needed. In a healthy relationship, it’s best to talk about it instead of holding it in.
• Keep up the romance. Stay connected. Stay passionate. Remember those first dates that made you fall in love with your partner? Recreate them. Better yet, have a weekly date night. Keep it fun and adventurous. Show your partner how much you love them – and let them do the same to you.
• Support each other’s dreams and goals. Support them regardless of what you think of them! Do everything you can to encourage them, inspire them, and keep them going. Be proud of them, and celebrate their achievements. Also, let your partner know when you need their support. Healthy relationships are about building each other up, not putting each other down.
• Respect Your Partner. Your partner’s wishes and feelings have value. Let your significant other know you are making an effort to keep their ideas in mind. Mutual respect is essential in maintaining healthy relationships.
• Compromise. Disagreements are a natural part of healthy relationships, but it’s important that you find a way to compromise if you disagree on something. Try to solve conflicts in a fair and rational way.
• Respect Each Other’s Privacy. Just because you’re in a relationship, doesn’t mean you have to share everything and constantly be together. Healthy relationships require space.
• Set Boundaries. Creating boundaries is a good way to keep your relationship healthy and secure. By setting boundaries together, you can both have a deeper understanding of the type of relationship that you and your partner want. Creating boundaries is not a sign of secrecy or distrust — it’s an expression of what makes you feel comfortable and what you would like or not like to happen within the relationship.
At Kingwood Pines Hospital , our therapists work with families every day to start healing relationships that have been damaged or broken. If you or a friend needs a therapist, there are many private, licensed therapists locally who do a great job in helping mend relationships. If a relationship reaches a critical stage and effects the ability of one of the partners to cope, please call us or come to Kingwood Pines Hospital for crisis help.
(Kingwood Pines Hospital serves the crisis mental health needs of people ages 5 and up. If you or someone you know is having a mental health crisis—please seek help immediately, and treat it as you would a medical emergency. You can call Kingwood Pines Hospital 24 hours per day, 7 days per week at 281-404-1001, and we provide no-cost assessments. More information about Kingwood Pines Hospital can be found at www.kingwoodpines.com. )