By Erin Darst Hein
Do you want to be cremated or buried? Have you told anyone? Maybe you have a really specific idea of what you would want (or not want) to happen at your own funeral, or maybe you haven’t ever thought about it. You probably don’t know that if your wishes regarding your funeral service are only saved in your will, they may not be seen until after the service. It’s so important that you provide separate instructions to whoever will be in charge of planning. When you ask people a specific question such as, “Would you prefer to be cremated when you pass?” – most people are ready with an answer. If you ask, on the other hand, “Would your husband prefer to be cremated?” – there’s often more of a hesitation. Giving your loved ones the tools and confidence to carry out your final wishes is an amazing gift to them during one of the hardest times they will face.
That’s why I’m challenging you to take out a pen right this minute and take five minutes to fill out the form below. Give a copy to each person who will be involved in planning your funeral. You don’t have to provide every detail unless you want to. Just use this as a chance to get down what is important to you and skip anything that you don’t feel strongly about. Ready, set, go!
- I would like to be ? buried, ? cremated, ? Other: ________________________________
- I would like my memorial/funeral service to be held at ? a church, ? a funeral home, ? an outdoor location, ? no preference, or ? no service desired. Specific location if known: ______________________________________________________________________
- Songs/Prayers I’d like to be a part of my service: _________________________________
- Many families offer a suggestion for a charity that well-wishers could make a donation to in your memory. Who would you want that to be? ___________________________________
- I’d like the final resting place of my body/ashes to be: ? a cemetery ? a mausoleum (an above ground tomb) ? in an urn that remains with my living loved ones ? scattered ashes (note: there are tons of choices for ashes other than just scattering. Everything from being incorporated into a coral reef to being made into jewels!) Specific location or details of final resting place: _____________________________________________________________
- ? l have not yet made a plan for my final expenses ? l have life insurance to cover my final expenses ? l have a savings account or other designated fund for that purpose. Notes: ______________________________________________________________________
- Any other thoughts or instructions: ______________________________________________
We know it isn’t easy to make one of these forms (or to receive one, for that matter), but we also know that it will bring such peace if and when it is needed. If you would like to formally plan your funeral, we would be honored to walk through your options in more detail.
Erin Hein is the daughter of John Darst of Darst Funeral Home. She lives in Kingwood with her husband, Evan and their two children, Jack and Caroline.
Darst Funeral Home is always available in your time of need. You can reach a live member of the Darst Funeral Home staff 24 hours a day, 365 days a year at 281-312-5656. The new facility located at 796 Russell Palmer Drive, and particularly the unique service garden, represents the fulfillment of owner John Darst’s dream to offer service options that truly put families first.
Erin Hein is the daughter of John and Anne Darst of Darst Funeral Home. She lives in Kingwood with her husband, Evan and their three children, Jack (7), Caroline (4) and Ian (2).
Darst Funeral Home is always available in your time of need. You can reach a member of the Darst Funeral Home staff 24 hours a day, 365 days a year at 281-312-5656. The unique, open, garden-centered facility represents the fulfillment of owner John Darst’s dream to offer service options that truly put families first.